Captain Shalini Singh

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Women are the companion of man, gifted with equal mental capacity.A commissioned officer in the Indian Army, Mrs India Queen of Substance 2017. She also became the first Indian to represent country in beauty pageant (Mrs. Earth in USA) in the single parent category. Honoured by Mrs Savita Kovind and Indian Army, Captain Shalini has won many other coveted awards like Veer Nari Samman Puruskar by Govt of India, EPIC award 2018, Citations of honours by Lions club and All India achievers award. Shalini Singh is only 23 when her husband major Avinash Bhadauria made the supreme sacrifice while fighting with the terrorist in Kashmir. In a year after her husband, Shalini Singh became captain Shalini Singh and receive her husband Keerthi Chakra from Former President APJ Abdul Kalam in her uniform. She has travelled a remarkable journey from being an ordinary house wife, a mother to a Veer Nari, to herself becoming lady officer in Indian Army, to corporate life. Captain Shalini Singh’s story is filled with grief, sacrifice, determination and victory. She was in and 19 pursuing her first year of graduation when she received a proposal for marriage the young man was an army officer named Major Avinash Singh Bhadauria, he was the candidates at the National Defence Academy. Shalini was dedicated and payment raised in an over protective environment while it was common for women at the time to trade education for family responsibilities. Shalini’s marriage to major Avinash in 1997 and didn’t deter from continuing her studies. After that day they shifted to Jamnanagar for three years where their son Dhruv was born in 1999.Mobiles were not yet common. They used to be connected through phone calls, which were either patched up through many Army Exchanges or made after a long waiting in the only STD booth available for thousands of soldiers. The call was short and rare, each successful conversation was like a battle won. Avinash used to love listening to the meaningless chatter of his son over the phone. Life was a true wonder for Shalini. raised in an over protective environment while it was common for women at the time to trade education for family responsibilities. Shalini’s marriage to major Avinash in 1997 and didn’t deter from continuing her studies. After that day they shifted to Jamnanagar for three years where their son Dhruv was born in 1999.Mobiles were not yet common. They used to be connected through phone calls, which were either patched up through many Army Exchanges or made after a long waiting in the only STD booth available for thousands of soldiers.The call was short and rare, each successful conversation was like a battle won. Avinash used to love listening to the meaningless chatter of his son over the phone. Life was a true wonder for Shalini. Until one morning when a phone call from Kashmir hit them like a bolt of lightning. Early morning on 28 Sep 2001 they got a call from Avinash unit that he is seriously injured with gunshot wounds.They were shaken. The worst fear of a fauji family had come true. Their universe went dark and world came to a standstill. They prayed for Avinash but it was futile. Second call after two hours turned their world upside down. She lost her husband, at the age of 23. But this was not told to Shalini. It was in the newspaper but her family kept hiding all evidence from her.She got to know later that Major Avinash Singh Bhadauria, had already made the supreme sacrifice when the first phone call was made by his unit, He has with 8 Rashtriya Rifles and had single handedly killed 04 terrorists. But in the fierce fight that followed he had suffered gunshots and attained martyrdom at the age of 29 in 2001. Shalini says that she has seen her existence only with the man like her father, brother and her husband. Now her husband has gone and her son is too small to take care of her. Shalini was in great shock and time was passing in a haze, like a glint of darkness in a pale, dull universe.She didn’t know how to react when people gave condolences. Nothing made sense, nothing had a meaning. Her life had lost meaning so early in life, all of a sudden. She felt like finishing her life. Then the thought came into her mind that I’m a wife of such a brave soldier. I can’t let my husband down. He died fighting with terrorist. I can’t so weak willed, I have to fight. And that thought changed her life. She had an innocent baby in her lap. Dhruv brought her life back. She had to be strong, for him. And a thought came into her mind that quitting life is not so easy. It’s very difficult to die and It’s very easy to live let me walk on that path and then she decided to wear the uniform and less than two month of her husband demise she was sitting in front of the examination board of the army which is the most difficult examination of our country. she didn’t get time to prepare the exam. In the examination hall she had together all the mental strength the distraction and focused on something positive to clear this exam. And when she was told that she has cleared the exam, at that time she was the happiest person and say yes, I have cleared. Then she reached Officer Training Academy (OTA), Chennai. It was 6 months training started in March 2002. she was a cadet and transformed from housewife to army officer. so, it was a tough challenge for them. In training camp, the cadet uses to wear proper uniforms where she was not familiar with this situation. In the army, ethics are the first priority, so there is no space for sympathy or they are not bothered about that, a situation of death or birth. You have to prove it that you deserve this uniform otherwise you may back to your home. In the next 6 months of training, she faced blood, sweat and tears. Blood because she wants to prove herself, sweat because the everyday struggle to become an officer, tear every night she used to cry because she lost her husband and she left her son behind. There were no mobile phones that she could connect with them. Every morning she used to get up and just focused on her goal and think that you have to do this training you have no choice, you have to do this training and you have to prove every day that Yes, you have to worthy of this uniform and after six months she became Commissioned officer in the Indian Army. Everyone in her family was very happy but this was not the proudest moments for her. The proudest moment of her life came when she received her husband Kirti Chakra award from the Former President APJ Abdul Kalam in her uniform. But her life has not become easy after that. Shalini was making herself everyday fit to survive with the challenges of life. After serving 5 years in the army Shalini settled in Delhi, completed her MBA and worked in a leadership position in a multinational company.In 2008, she remarried. The man was a divorcee and promised to keep Shalini happy and give Dhruv a secure future. Alas, it was only a matter of time, until the truth came out. In 2009, she met with a very bad road accident and had 17 fractures in her body. Her left leg was broken, the hand was totally damaged doctor said that you can’t walk without a limp your hand will not be able to do things which you do things that you do regularly, won’t be able to lift weights. You will walk with the limb, you can never run and she was asking to the doctor that will I be the mercy of other then the doctor says No you won’t be but yes you won’t be as normal as others. But she never gives up and stands on her feet again and it took one year and today, she runs marathons and goes out for 10 km runs, every alternate day. While dealing with these time Shalini realised that something was not going good with her marriage too. Her second husband had promised to secure her son’s future but after the marriage, her husband and her new in-laws never allowed Shalini to live with her son and told that gives her son to Avinash’s parents or leave him at an orphanage. In 2010, her father in law having Cancer and required money for treatment, her second husband, who handled her finances would make excuses to not shell money. After a few months later she lost him. The biggest shock again hit Shalini because after the Avinash’s death he always supported her. Constant fights continued. But Shalini didn’t want to quit the toxic relationship due to societal pressure. She put up with the sham of marriage until all hell broke loose in June 2011. She reveals, “He broke a glass on my head. The left side of my head had shards of glass in it, and my face was bloodied. My in-laws just stood there. I sustained 32 stitches on my head and was struggling for my life. Not only this, my brother, who is in the banking sector, realised that my husband had siphoned off over 45 lakhs of my hard-earned money to his mother’s account. This pushed me into a traumatic and depressive state. But I had seen far too much to keep quiet then.” Shalini continues to fight court cases against her second husband and in-laws.Shalini engaged herself to do social work to bounce back. She guiding army widows to apply the forces and helping them build other skill sets, she did it all. She would often involve herself in tending to the needs of underprivileged kids too.“I knew I had to fight. If I, being an educated woman, would let my perpetrators go, how would I look into the eyes of the oppressed women and widows I counselled? How would I look at myself in the mirror? I moved out of their house and rented an apartment. During my court cases, my brother decided to take guardianship of my son, who completed his Class 10 in Bengaluru. Soon after, I shifted there too. In 2014, we started living together.”Now her son was 19, a second-year B Tech student in Mumbai.“Shalini didn’t speak about her second life, because she doesn’t consider her second husband or his family a part of her life. She dedicated her entire life to Major Avinash Singh Bhadauria. She feels proud to bear his surname. “After that, she became the only Indian to participate in an international pageant in the single parent category and was also crowned ‘Classic Mrs India– Queen of Substance’ in 2017. Shalini says, “My son – he saw his father die, he knew what I was going through. He has seen me through the most difficult phase of my life. Crying due to a fight, face swollen and unrecognizable after the domestic violence –everything. And it amazes me how mature he has been through it all. Our bond, regardless of the long periods of separation, has only become stronger. I tell him that it doesn’t matter if he doesn’t have the best job, but he needs to be respect women, no matter what background they come from. It is beautiful to now watch him grow into a sensitive and mature gentleman. He is making us proud.” Honour, Love, Respect women. To all the amazing ladies out there, have a wonderful day! Honour, Love, Respect women. To all the amazing ladies out there, have a wonderful day! Women are the companion of man, gifted with equal mental capacity.A commissioned officer in the Indian Army, Mrs India Queen of Substance 2017. She also became the first Indian to represent the country in a beauty pageant (Mrs. Earth in the USA) in the single parent category. Honoured by Mrs Savita Kovind and Indian Army, Captain Shalini has won many other coveted awards like Veer Nari Samman Puruskar by Govt of India, EPIC award 2018, Citations of honours by Lions club and All India achievers award. Shalini Singh is only 23 when her husband major Avinash Bhadauria made the supreme sacrifice while fighting with the terrorist in Kashmir. In a year after her husband, Shalini Singh became captain Shalini Singh and receive her husband Keerthi Chakra from Former President APJ Abdul Kalam in her uniform. She has travelled a remarkable journey from being an ordinary housewife, a mother to a Veer Nari, to herself becoming a lady officer in the Indian Army, to corporate life. Captain Shalini Singh’s story is filled with grief, sacrifice, determination and victory. She was in and 19 pursuing her first year of graduation when she received a proposal for marriage the young man was an army officer named Major Avinash Singh Bhadauria, he was the candidates at the National Defence Academy. Shalini was dedicated and payment raised in an overprotective environment while it was common for women at the time to trade education for family responsibilities. Shalini’s marriage to major Avinash in 1997 and didn’t deter from continuing her studies. After that day they shifted to Jamnanagar for three years where their son Dhruv was born in 1999. Mobiles were not yet common. They used to be connected through phone calls, which were either patched up through many Army Exchanges or made after long waiting in the only STD booth available for thousands of soldiers. The call was short and rare, each successful conversation was like a battle won. Avinash used to love listening to the meaningless chatter of his son over the phone. Life was a true wonder for Shalini. raised in an overprotective environment while it was common for women at the time to trade education for family responsibilities. Shalini’s marriage to major Avinash in 1997 and didn’t deter from continuing her studies. After that day they shifted to Jamnanagar for three years where their son Dhruv was born in 1999. Mobiles were not yet common. They used to be connected through phone calls, which were either patched up through many Army Exchanges or made after long waiting in the only STD booth available for thousands of soldiers. The call was short and rare, each successful conversation was like a battle won. Avinash used to love listening to the meaningless chatter of his son over the phone. Life was a true wonder for Shalini. Until one morning when a phone call from Kashmir hit them like a bolt of lightning. Early morning on 28 Sep 2001 they got a call from Avinash unit that he is seriously injured with gunshot wounds.They were shaken. The worst fear of a Soldier family had come true. Their universe went dark and the world came to a standstill. They prayed for Avinash but it was futile. The second call after two hours turned their world upside down. She lost her husband, at the age of 23. But this was not told to Shalini. It was in the newspaper but her family kept hiding all evidence from her.She got to know later that Major Avinash Singh Bhadauria, had already made the supreme sacrifice when the first phone call was made by his unit, He has with 8 Rashtriya Rifles and had single-handedly killed 04 terrorists. But in the fierce fight that followed he had suffered gunshots and attained martyrdom at the age of 29 in 2001. Shalini says that she has seen her existence only with the man like her father, brother and her husband. Now her husband has gone and her son is too small to take care of her. Shalini was in great shock and time was passing in a haze, like a glint of darkness in a pale, dull universe.She didn’t know how to react when people gave condolences. Nothing made sense, nothing had meaning. Her life had lost meaning so early in life, all of a sudden. She felt like finishing her life. Then the thought came into her mind that I’m a wife of such a brave soldier. I can’t let my husband down. He died fighting with the terrorist. I can’t so weak-willed, I have to fight. And that thought changed her life. She had an innocent baby in her lap. Dhruv brought her life back. She had to be strong, for him. And a thought came into her mind that quitting life is not so easy. It’s very difficult to die and It’s very easy to live let me walk on that path and then she decided to wear the uniform and less than two months of her husband demise she was sitting in front of the examination board of the army which is the most difficult examination of our country. she didn’t get time to prepare the exam. In the examination hall, she had together all the mental the strength the distraction and focused on something positive to clear this exam. And when she was told that she has cleared the exam, at that time she was the happiest person and say yes, I have cleared. Then she reached Officer Training Academy (OTA), Chennai. It was 6 months of training started in March 2002. she was a cadet and transformed from housewife to army officer. so, it was a tough challenge for them. In training camp, the cadet uses to wear proper uniforms where she was not familiar with this situation. In the army, ethics are the first priority, so there is no space for sympathy or they are not bothered about that, the situation of death or birth. You have to prove it that you deserve this uniform otherwise you may back to your home. In the next 6 months of training, she faced blood, sweat and tears. Blood because she wants to prove herself, sweat because the everyday struggle to become an officer, tear every night she used to cry because she lost her husband and she left her son behind. There were no mobile phones that she could connect with them. Every morning she used to get up and just focused on her goal and think that you have to do this training you have no choice, you have to do this training and you have to prove every day that Yes, you have to worthy of this uniform and after six months she became Commissioned officer in the Indian Army. Everyone in her family was very happy but this was not the proudest moments for her. The proudest moment of her life came when she received her husband Kirti Chakra award from the Former President APJ Abdul Kalam in her uniform. But her life has not become easy after that. Shalini was making herself everyday fit to survive with the challenges of life. After serving 5 years in the army Shalini settled in Delhi, completed her MBA and worked in a leadership position in a multinational company.In 2008, she remarried. The man was a divorcee and promised to keep Shalini happy and give Dhruv a secure future. Alas, it was only a matter of time, until the truth came out. In 2009, she met with a very bad road accident and had 17 fractures in her body. Her left leg was broken, the hand was totally damaged doctor said that you can’t walk without a limp your hand will not be able to do things which you do things that you do regularly, won’t be able to lift weights. You will walk with the limb, you can never run and she was asking to the doctor that will I be the mercy of other then the doctor says No you won’t be but yes you won’t be as normal as others. But she never gives up and stands on her feet again and it took one year and today, she runs marathons and goes out for 10 km runs, every alternate day. While dealing with this thing Shalini realised that something was not going good with her marriage too. Her second husband had promised to secure her son’s future but after the marriage, her husband and her new in-laws never allowed Shalini to live with her son and told that gives her son to Avinash’s parents or leave him at an orphanage. In 2010, her father in law having Cancer and required money for treatment, her second husband, who handled her finances would make excuses to not shell money. After a few months later she lost him. The biggest shock again hit Shalini because after the Avinash’s death he always supported her. Constant fights continued. But Shalini didn’t want to quit the toxic relationship due to societal pressure. She put up with the sham of marriage until all hell broke loose in June 2011. She reveals, “He broke a glass on my head. The left side of my head had shards of glass in it, and my face was bloodied. My in-laws just stood there. I sustained 32 stitches on my head and was struggling for my life. Not only this, my brother, who is in the banking sector, realised that my husband had siphoned off over 45 lakhs of my hard-earned money to his mother’s account. This pushed me into a traumatic and depressive state. But I had seen far too much to keep quiet then.” Shalini continues to fight court cases against her second husband and in-laws.Shalini engaged herself to do social work to bounce back. She guiding army widows to apply the forces and helping them build other skill sets, she did it all. She would often involve herself in tending to the needs of underprivileged kids too.“I knew I had to fight. If I, being an educated woman, would let my perpetrators go, how would I look into the eyes of the oppressed women and widows I counselled? How would I look at myself in the mirror? I moved out of their house and rented an apartment. During my court cases, my brother decided to take guardianship of my son, who completed his Class 10 in Bengaluru. Soon after, I shifted there too. In 2014, we started living together.”Now her son was 19, a second-year B Tech student in Mumbai.“Shalini didn’t speak about her second life, because she doesn’t consider her second husband or his family a part of her life. She dedicated her entire life to Major Avinash Singh Bhadauria. She feels proud to bear his surname. “After that, she became the only Indian to participate in an international pageant in the single parent category and was also crowned ‘Classic Mrs India– Queen of Substance’ in 2017. Shalini says, “My son – he saw his father die, he knew what I was going through. He has seen me through the most difficult phase of my life. Crying due to a fight, face swollen and unrecognizable after the domestic violence –everything. And it amazes me how mature he has been through it all. Our bond, regardless of the long periods of separation, has only become stronger. I tell him that it doesn’t matter if he doesn’t have the best job, but he needs to be respect women, no matter what background they come from. It is beautiful to now watch him grow into a sensitive and mature gentleman. He is making us proud.”

The true soldier fights not because he hates what is in front of him, but because he loves what is behind him. ~G.K. Chesterton

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